Struggling with Expectations

A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the "why" for his existence, and will be able to bear almost any "how."
-Viktor Frankl

This is the sixth post in a series expanding on 20 Things I Learned from My Toddler.

You can fit a lot more commitments in your life than you think.

As a full-time college student several years ago, I remember how busy my life was and couldn’t imagine fitting more responsibilities into my life. However, I added a part time job near the end of my first full-time semester. A few years later, my wife and I became homeowners of a home in need of some maintenance. I just couldn’t imagine fitting more into my life. Yet I did.

Then Tristen was born. Now, I look back on my college years and wonder how I managed to keep from getting bored with all the free time I had.

Expectations and Stress

I have found that the level of responsibility I take on does not correlate with the level of stress I experience. Stress is fear. It comes from a lack of confidence in ourselves to handle that which we must face. It comes from a lack of faith.

Today is one of those days where my faith in myself and in God’s plan for me is struggling. With the Christmas holiday approaching, my business thriving with work, my son at a high-maintenance time in his life, my wife in school and several other looming responsibilities, it is hard to imagine accomplishing all I wish to accomplish. What is interesting about these responsibilities which are currently sources of stress in my life is that they are all things which give me a great deal of joy. If I were to create a gratitude list today and a list of struggles in my life today, they would have the same content.

Time Management

Even when our gratitude list and list of stresses are not clearly matched, if we search deep enough, we can find some underlying desire to every responsibility that we have. This is the key to time management.

I have written in the past that Joy is Time Management. Time management is enjoying what we do and doing what we enjoy. When we focus on the things that give us joy, we find motivation, energy, focus and drive. We find inspiration. We are able to accomplish things that seem impossible.

About the author


I am Danny Kohn, writer and designer for this site and owner, software engineer and consultant for Inspirations Software Design. My three greatest passions in life are sharing time with my family, software design and sharing inspiration with others. I have the incredible privilege of being able to spend a significant amount of time every day doing each of those three things. I am a single father of Tristen, our 6 year old son. It has been such an incredible joy to watch him grow up and learn so much. Everything he does and says overwhelms me with adoration. We have a wonderful evening ritual of reading books together in a beanbag chair. Nearly every night, we have a laughing attack together. I smile and giggle constantly in his presence and feel truly inspired.

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