Failure and Self Acceptance

Nothing is a greater impediment to being on good terms with others than being ill at ease with yourself.
-Honore De Balzac

On a day to day basis, we read about the benefits of a spiritual, inspired and enlightened lifestyle. We know that life is a product of our attitude, our faith and our choice to look at things positively. So what happens when we know that all in our heads, but don’t always feel it in our hearts? What happens when we try to be positive, but find ourselves repeating a cycle of frustration and complaints.

There are times when I find myself annoyed and frustrated with circumstances in my life. I get stuck in negativity and then get frustrated with myself for acting out on negativity when I know, intellectually, that it does me no good and it is not how I want to live. I find it especially difficult to combat these perceived blockades to contentment when illness strikes or when circumstances or poor time management prevent sufficient sleep.

View of the back county from a peak at Porcupine Mountains State Park in MichiganView of the back country from a peak at Porcupine Mountains State Park in Michigan

Ideals and Expectations

As we step onward in our spiritual journey, we often focus on the ideals we wish to achieve. Many of us look to spiritual lords as roll models such as Jesus Christ, Buddha, Krishna, etc. as a guide. It is easy to forget that these people lived in spiritual perfection that is historically extraordinary.

The profound majority of humans throughout history struggle tremendously with faith, kindness, selflessness, gratitude, forgiveness and even basic honesty. These are extremely difficult principles to live by consistently for most of us, and the best thing we can do to assure continued spiritual growth is to forgive ourselves, let go of our past mistakes and strive for growth rather than perfection.

Humanity, Uniqueness and Imperfection

Uniqueness is a key trait of humanness, and imperfection is a property of uniqueness. If we were all perfect, we would all be the same. If we were all the same, we would not be human.

Imperfection and Purpose

If we were all perfect, we would all be lords. If we were all perfect, we would not need a lord. If we were all lords and didn’t need a lord, we would have no purpose.

Our imperfection defines us as unique and dynamic. It is a trait of the creative, conscious beings that God created and loves.

If God wanted me to be perfect, I would be.

Practice Patience and Tolerance with Yourself

Recognize that you will make mistakes, there will be setbacks and you will continue to grow spiritually. Sometimes our journey down the path of spiritual growth is lightening fast and we see profound changes in ourselves overnight. Other times, the journey is difficult and slow.

We can choose the path to follow, but rarely do we get to choose the time line. The patience we have with ourselves is the patience we have with God’s plan.

About the author


I am Danny Kohn, writer and designer for this site and owner, software engineer and consultant for Inspirations Software Design. My three greatest passions in life are sharing time with my family, software design and sharing inspiration with others. I have the incredible privilege of being able to spend a significant amount of time every day doing each of those three things. I am a single father of Tristen, our 6 year old son. It has been such an incredible joy to watch him grow up and learn so much. Everything he does and says overwhelms me with adoration. We have a wonderful evening ritual of reading books together in a beanbag chair. Nearly every night, we have a laughing attack together. I smile and giggle constantly in his presence and feel truly inspired.

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1 comment

  1. Ashley Ryan says:

    What Beautiful words!! Thank you.


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