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Aug
21

Choose Your Attitude – Choose Your Life

Everything can be taken away from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedom -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
-Viktor Frankl
Man's Search For Meaning

Frankl’s Experience

Early morning autumn moon in De Pere, Wisconsin
Looking up at an early morning autumn moon in De Pere, Wisconsin.

Dr. Viktor E. Frankl spent nearly three years in Nazi concentration camps where his wife and parents were executed. He and his sister were the only survivors in his family. He faced horrors I couldn’t begin to describe or even imagine.

Viktor E. Frankl - Man's Search For Meaning

An educated man with hopes and dreams to pursue a life of success, he found himself treated like an animal facing the possibility of torture, execution or starvation at any moment. Literally stripped of every material possession he owned, he watched friends, family and strangers die: some to execution and others perished after losing their will to live.

Yet, while control of his physical life was completely taken from him, he maintained the will to live with purpose and intention. He had no choice; he knew that given the circumstances under which he was forced to live, if he lost his will, he would die, and without a second thought, his body would be tossed onto a pile of other corpses in a ditch.

Finding Peace – Personal Perspective

Traffic, a sleepless toddler, money management problems and a messy house pail in comparison to the challenges faced by Frankl. Yet, I find myself focusing with frustration on these issues from time to time. How could Frankl find peace while suffering with starvation, grief and unimaginable abuse while I, with my warm, comfortable and safe home, beautiful family, secure and rewarding career and freedom, struggle to find peace?

It is a matter of choice. When I focus on and express gratitude, I find peace and incredible joy.

It really is that simple; however, it is not necessarily easy. It takes practice and persistence: a constant consciousness of my attitude. With practice, I am able to catch myself when life’s demands frustrate me and remember the gifts I have today. I look for opportunities to express and share my gratitude for what I have. This website is one such opportunity for me.

When I find myself questioning my ability to pursue my purpose in life because the demands in my life make it difficult for me to focus on my goals, I remind myself that, Frankl, after having survived inconceivable horror, survived and lived on to be an inspiration to millions.

The Key to Frankl’s Success

Frankl chose not to focus on the horror in which he lived. He instead focused on what small joys he could find and on giving what he could offer to others. He was convinced that he had something to offer and that his life had true purpose. It was through looking for opportunities to share joy with others that he found it for himself. This is a perfect demonstration of the idea that, as Saint Francis said, “it is through giving that we receive.”

Daily Action – Focus on Gratitude

Take some time to focus on the gifts in your life: family and friends, health, your home, your car. Although there may be imperfections, focus on the things that are pleasing to you and allow yourself to feel a sense of gratitude: even if just for a moment.

Take a mental snapshot of that feeling and of the things that you focus on, consider writing them down. Bring yourself back there whenever you begin to find yourself frustrated or unsatisfied.

Remember what Frankl experienced and be grateful that you can learn from his experiences without having to live through them. And, as he did, look for opportunities to express gratitude through kindness and actively look for more reasons to be grateful.


About the author

Danny

I am Danny Kohn, writer and designer for this site and owner, software engineer and consultant for Inspirations Software Design. My three greatest passions in life are sharing time with my family, software design and sharing inspiration with others. I have the incredible privilege of being able to spend a significant amount of time every day doing each of those three things. I am a single father of Tristen, our 6 year old son. It has been such an incredible joy to watch him grow up and learn so much. Everything he does and says overwhelms me with adoration. We have a wonderful evening ritual of reading books together in a beanbag chair. Nearly every night, we have a laughing attack together. I smile and giggle constantly in his presence and feel truly inspired.

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  1. Curt says:

    It really is amazing the things we can take for granted. How soon we forget that people are stripped of their families to go to war, people are dying of starvation, others trying to still pick themselves up from hurricane Katrina .. and I’m complaining about what? Suddenly it seems so small, makes no sense to complain about, and guilt is felt because of self-centeredness. Life is good.

  2. Danny says:

    It really is a challenge, when you’re in the thick of life to remember how good life is. Thanks for sharing your comments Curt.

  3. Amyrose says:

    Last 3yrs have been tough for me, my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer & had operation to remove the tumour, which took 3/4 of a lung away. Then he was diagnosed with an abdominal aortic annuerysm, which was operated on earlier this year. Also he’s had a few very serious, life threatening infections and has been diagnosed with COPD. I have been with him every step of the way, but it hasn’t been easy and it’s been hard to keep dad moving forward instead of allowing the illnesses to defeat him.

    It’s only hit me this last few months that I view the world with a glass half full, that’s not to say I don’t have days when I empty the glass and don’t refill it. Somewhere along the way I realised that I could chose to let things I cannot change get to me, or I could just let go and take the good from each situation to give me that little boost to be able to give my dad the strength to get through.

    I think if we accept the bad and find something in it that makes it good then we free ourselves to accept more good into our lives and if we can keep on like that, pretty soon the bad will just be a stepping stone over to the good stuff.

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